Life is too short to live by someone else's story
I want to use this page to orient you to my work by sharing a bit about the process I am in. In the summer of 2022, after working as a full-time trauma therapist for 11 years, I followed a strong whisper in my belly as well as deep guidance from my community and took a severance from my practice. This led me to embark on a 3 month sabbatical, including a deep reconnection with the land I was born to, as well as major shifts to my life and work. Since honoring and inviting in a new kind of attention to intuition, flow, connection and the collective, I allowed myself to be pulled out of the pot of individual trauma therapy, and have since been tending my raw roots in fertile soil. Some of the energy that has been reverberating through my bones are shifts from:
professional towards relational
individual towards collective
giving towards sharing
hierarchy towards circle
pushing through towards honoring
healing towards tending
all towards a different kind of knowing, being, holding
I share this here for two reasons. First, if you're browsing my website, chances are that you are looking for someone to hold space for you in a particular kind of way, and I want you to know from jump that I am not your typical therapist. I have specific training around listening and a deep capacity to hold what is hard, but I am also wild and messy and don't particularly believe that the best kind of "work" always happens on the therapy sofa. Know that if we meet for a consultation, we can talk about and experiment with what working together might actually look and feel like, and that our consent process will be ongoing.
I also tell you this because as much as I believe in intentional trauma healing work, the biggest healing and transformation that I have undergone was when I listened to an intuitive whispering that my practical brain still sometimes has trouble making any actual sense of. I will say that after I let myself stop doing what I had always done, and started practicing being held and supported by my community, I began feeling into and breaking some of the social contracts I had been subconsciously following. In saying no, my yeses emerged. They still are.
Who I love to hold space for:
folks who know what it's like to exist outside of the binary
folks who are in the middle of some deep shifts
folks who are longing to break some social contracts and break out of some boxes
folks who are hoping to reconnect to a larger whole undefined by the limits and burdens of capitalism and individualism
Some work I'm excited about:
7x7- Seven Shifts: a one-off workshop that may flow into a series; capped at 7 participants with generational wealth in collaboration with Jen Lemen.
AvAn: a workshop/group for couples who find themselves in the throws of painful anxious/avoidant attachment loops
If you are interested in any of these offerings, please let me know.
If we haven't met before, emailing me is the best way to reach me.
I want to honor the devotional work of humans and orgs
who have offered my soul, wisdom
and my body, home.
My parents who fell in love from different sides of the planet
Tarell Kyles: Race-ing Consciousness to Raising Consciousness
Jen Lemen: The Path of Devotion
Dr. Shawna Murray-Browne: Therapy that Liberates
Jules Perkel, my partner and a certified badass in a storm
Original photography by Taimur Sajed
If you are looking for some therapy...
While I am not taking on folks for traditional individual psychotherapy right now, there are so many folks and organizations out there that I highly recommend:
Intimacy from the Inside Out directory (for couples)
For more resources like this, my partner Jules Perkel, LCSW has a fantastic resource page on her website.
Finding a therapist right now is not easy across the board, and if you're having trouble getting in touch with folks who have openings, feel free to reach out, and let me know as much as you want about what you're looking for. I have no problem using all of my connections and networks to share some options.